It's okay not to be okay

 Do you know that J.K.Rowling, the now-famous writer of the Harry Potter series was once dependent on the state's meager assistance for feeding her child and herself? She had no job, no accommodation, left an abusive husband and had nowhere to be. No one was taking her in and that's when she decided to do what she wanted to do. And that was writing- the underline being- there was nothing to lose. The world knows what followed. Within three years from being a woman on Assistance she went on to become the richest woman in the UK. So inspiring!

Looking backward, it looks like the universe wanted her to write and conspired to create situations in her life that left her with no other choice but to write. If anything slightly more convenient were to happen, say her husband turned out to be a kind and gentleman instead of abusive, she might have got so involved in her family life that the box of manuscripts would have rotten in the attic of her home. Or it would have been something to pass time and narrate stories to her future kids.

Failures light the way to where you should be. How much uncomfortable does it need for you to get so that you have no option but to do what you love to do. It is said that what you do when you are procrastinating, is what you should do in life. Nothing can give you more security than being yourself.

Rowling once asked her mother, "Mom, am I weird? Because I don't like the things that other people like. Nobody reads the kind of books that I read?" It's normal to have doubts when you are different. The difference is what matters. We evolved from being apes to intelligent humans due to differences carried over a long period. If you are different, take notice and stay comfortable. It's a sign of progress, it's your currency, preserve it.

One last thing to learn from her life is to be open to failure. Let the outcome of whatever it was that you desired to get, not move you to extremes. Rowling was a brilliant and perfect student. Still, she didn't make it through many interviews, was thrown out of the jobs that she was doing, faced personal rejection. It's okay not to be okay. Don't take these too personally. Ups and downs happen in everyone's life. The sum is always the same. The excitement of achieving something dies away gradually. The misery returns and the cycle repeats. Be aware. Before you, countless men have walked the earth facing similar issues as you did and many will do in the future. It's inevitable. So do what you want to do and don't let petty matters distract you from your path.